Ask Tom, Answer Gansie
Washington, D.C.: I know you’ve mentioned your dislike of waiters “auctioning plates,” but I’d like to raise the issue again — with a twist.My boyfriend and I eat at restaurants pretty regularly — 2-3 times a week, at a mix of price points. But one thing that’s become pretty constant lately is waiters delivering our food and automatically assuming the salad or the fish goes to me — when 9 times out of 10, it’s what my boyfriend has ordered.
He’s the health nut. I’m more apt to order something involving pork belly or red meat.
It would be funny if it wasn’t happening so often.
Tom Sietsema: Restaurant Rule No. 234:
Never assume! The same goes for who gets the wine list and who gets the bill. A good server will ask who the host is.
gansie: What especially gets me is the check. Typical scenario: The check will be placed towards the man’s side of the table. I will pick it up and put my credit card down. The card reads MY name, not the name of a man. Server picks up fold, runs card (assume looks at card and name.) Puts down card in front of man.
It’s 2008. It’s time for a change.
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